Who wants to sail around the world?
Me, I do.
Despite my propensity for sea-sickness, I get all bliss woozy when I think on it and while I'm not precisely sure why it's so bright for me, if this full tilt adventure-drenched life has taught me anything, it's a deep trust in what initially appears as a silly or weird crush, because engaging them always, somehow, leads me to solutions I couldn't have see from where I'm standing, or to the development of skill that I need/crave for my next bigger, e'er yummier boogie with Life.
The bright exciting things are bridges to the bright exciting next realities, you just gotta get more practice at stepping on them.
When I've been far out at sea, or lost deep in jungles or set adrift on a 1 year mission to travel nomadically with 13 other people exploring our relationship with our real yes, or any of those other times, what's come to light is that my capacity for deep engagement, for deep allowing of All of Me to be present and active in my life, is directly proportional to my ability to stay close to my joy, not in a big deal kind of way, but in a micro-joy bites kind of way.
Like food, I need a regular diet of well-balanced joy bites for me in order to be able to show up for my big wild, fun as fuck life. If I get too unhappy, my own life starts to frighten me and I quietly start trying to make it smaller.
The joy bites can't be shit bites either. Just as my body reacts differently to kale smoothies v. fudge sundaes, I need clean, high impact joy bites to keep me running.
Just like a heavenly meal will become a nightmare if you eat more than your body is calling for, so will a joy bite become an unjoyful bite if you engage it past the time when it feels bright (nine hour netflix binge anyone?)
A joy bite is a short, focused engagement with something that elicits from you a clear feeling of joy. It lasts as long as it feels truly joyful and leaves you better than you were before. It has to genuinely take you up. Therefore, different joy bites will work at different emotional states, and be wicked unique, yo. Your joy ain't my joy. Unless singing at the top of your lungs while motorcycling through the Blue Ridge is your joy, then your joy is my joy and we should tots go riding.
Gratitude is another one of my favorite go to joy bites but if I'm really freaking out, it gives me no traction, and just makes me feel worse. We pepper this into our daily lives by playing rampaging or top 5 games in the house, (what's your top five things about butts? is a real humdinger sure to get that joy party started.)
The trick to joy bites is knowing them about yourself, (and the trick to knowing them about yourself is to pay the eff attention, be real with what lights you up and stop giving a hot fig what others think about you and your delight).
It's also super rad to know your People's joy bites cuz it's the most loving thing in the world to give regular nourishment to the soul, AND it helps you keep your vibe in range of those dreams that your heart gets all pitter patter about. It's also the most gorgeous pathway to intimacy to be able to invite people into a True For Them joybite, one that helps them come back to their joyfull center.
Staying in range of your joy helps everything deepen and grow because you're staying close to your true nourishments.
It's fun to think about how to make Big Joy engagements tiny little on the go micro bites. It's fun to think about because it's fun to think about: joy is very literally fun to ponder because thinking about it activates the same pleasure centers (as the joyful experience itself) and takes us there, so there's that delight, but then it goes deeper because you take the joy you once had spread out through out your life, however sporadically, (often can you realistically go camping?) and begin to weave the essence of that joy into your daily expression as a human.
It's fun to put them into your calendar or to do list if your run that way. It gives you an added boost of joy to anticipate future joy. How sexy is it to put a date with your true joy on the books for yourself, regularly, like a big girl or big boy? Prioritizing what nourishes us most helps us to become proper stewards of our wildest dreaming hearts.
love from the deep,